Choosing a life partner
is a very important decision. Spending the rest of your life with another
person can be a joyous and fulfilling experience, but you must pick someone
with whom you are compatible. Here are a few tips on making a good choice
Steps-
1. Figure
out who you are. Seek to be content and gain enough self-awareness that you
can be an honest and open individual to whomever you may encounter. Work on
overcoming your weaknesses that so when the right person comes along, you don't
bring too much personal baggage to the relationship. Being confident and
knowing what your principles and values are will not only attract a partner,
but also help you determine your compatibility with another person.
2. Determine
what you are looking for in a partner. Knowing what you need
will prevent you from becoming involved in a relationship with a person who
ultimately does not share your goals.
3. Ask
questions when beginning a courtship. Decide what you want
to know about a potential partner; ethics, interests, spiritual outlook and
even diet may all be important to your long-term compatibility. If you want
children, find out whether a potential partner wants to be a parent as well.
4. Avoid
becoming intimately involved with a potential partner until you get to know the
person. Relationships can be clouded by physical intimacy too soon
in the courtship. Experiencing an intense sexual attraction to a person can be
enchanting, but it does not necessarily mean that the person is a good
long-term partner. Though sexual attraction and compatibility are key to a good
long-term relationship, waiting allows you to gain a better understanding of
whether you are compatible.
5. Be
honest about who you are. During courtship, it may be
tempting to appease the other person by manipulating the truth about your past
or present situation in order to impress her. However, this not only leads to
personal guilt, but also poses a strong risk of problems down the road. When
the other person inevitably learns the truth, trust and understanding can be
greatly diminished.
6. Examine
how you act around a potential partner. If you find yourself
being fake or laughing at a joke you don't think is funny, you might be
starting off on the wrong foot. If you are relaxed in the person's presence,
you might be on the right track.
7. Spend
time with a potential partner. To know if a
relationship will work, it is essential to spend long periods of time in the
other person's company, under a variety of circumstances. Bring the person to
your social engagements, and introduce him to your friends and family. If he
gets along well with your friends and family, you might be on the right track.
8. Let
go of expectations. During courtship and when maintaining a relationship,
don't expect the other person to be who they are not. Avoid constructing an
illusion around a person, attributing to her qualities that she lacks. Don't
expect a partner to change who she is to appease you. Be mindful of enjoying
her for who she is.
9. Make
sacrifices to build your partnership. Nothing is perfect,
and there are times when you may have to sublimate your own needs for the sake
of the relationship. A partnership is a selfless endeavor that requires
continuous effort to grow.
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