Build Self Confidence
1. Dress Sharp
Although
clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about
himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are.
When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact
with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal
appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and
shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest
styles.
This doesn’t
mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend
twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes,
buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases
spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style
longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your
closet.
2. Walk Faster
One of the
easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk.
Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with
confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important
work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self
confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you
look and feel more important.
3. Good Posture
3. Good Posture
Similarly,
the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders
and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t
enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves
important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more
confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll
make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.
4. Personal Commercial
One of the
best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech.
Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far
between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60
second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front
of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a
confidence boost.
5. Gratitude
When you
focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have
it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is
consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list
everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills,
loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have
going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.
6. Compliment other people
When we
think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in
the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the
habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and
make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become
well liked and build self
confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring
out the best in yourself.
7. Sit in the front row
In schools,
offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to
sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid
of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit
in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self
confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from
the front of the room.
8. Speak up
During group
discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will
judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified.
Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people
are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least
once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more
confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.
9. Work out
Along the
same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self
confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and
less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize
yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out
not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build
on the rest of the day.
10. Focus on contribution
Too often we
get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough
on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and
concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you
won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and
allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the
world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.
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